After finishing my fluffy, private-school, graduate program,
I moved back home to Louisville. I had
secured my first real job and an apartment with my boyfriend, and I was ready
to start adulting. I immediately began
working nights at a news station—a lonely and depressing job, most likely
responsible for breeding serial killers and magicians. Most days, I spent my mornings sleeping until
1pm and dreading the prospect of teasing another murder for the 11 o’clock news
or highlighting another vigil for a child gone missing. But on the days I dragged myself out of bed
early, mainly due to the whines of a needy dog pawing at my face, begging me to
play with whatever piece of clothing she got out of the dirty clothes basket, I
decided it couldn’t hurt to be productive.
Work had been slowly eroding my sanity, and as I saw myself beginning to
unravel, I had to find some way to reassure myself that I was still capable of
functioning as an adult.
[I’ll preface this by saying that I have never been good at
doing laundry. I would drive my laundry
home during college so my mother could do it for me, and when I went away to
Boston and Los Angeles, I invested in strong perfume so I could spray many-a pants
crotch and blouse armpit.]
On this particular morning, I had looked at the crumpled
piles spread about our room. When your
co-habitant equally inept at mastering the whole “like colors” and “tumble dry”
thing, laundry for two becomes more than a small household chore. I had two and a half hours before I needed to
shower and get ready to leave for work.
I had this in the hamper bag.
***
As soon as I moved home and started making my own money, it
was clearly time to cut the cord. And by
cord, I mean credit card. My parents had
opened a credit card in my name and linked it to their bank account when I was
a senior in high school. “For
emergencies,” they said. Just like when
they bought me a cell phone in eighth grade, “for emergencies.” Ignoring the messaging fees to text Stefanie
about my newly-purchased polyphonic ring tone to “Sugar” by Trick Daddy and
Ludacris was obviously an emergency.
That definition has always been a little liberal for me.
I called my mother and let her know that I had just cut up
my credit card. Honestly, I always used
it very sparingly and hadn’t used it in months, save for a few drunken Uber
rides and nights when I got a little ambitious and slurringly promised all my
friends: “next round is on me” (irrefutably, these events coincided more often
than not). I was more than surprised to
hear that she wasn’t ecstatic that I had snipped the MomNDad Support
Hotline. “What if you have an
emergency? What if something comes up
and you don’t have the money?” Relax,
mom. I’m an adult, remember? She also reminded me that my HSA card was about
to expire, which then reminded me that I was still under the sovereignty and protection
of my parents’ health insurance and planned to milk it for all it’s worth until
the eve of my 26th birthday. Okay, so I’m
kind of an adult.
***
Slinging a laundry bag over my shoulder and stacking two,
full baskets on top of one another, I precariously waddled across the parking
lot to the laundry room in our neighborhood’s clubhouse. I had pre-sorted everything, and even wrapped
my unmentionables up in a towel to prevent any mouth-breathing creep lurking in
the laundry room from taking a sniff (I’m a lady).
Our washers and dryers are card operated—not even a slot for
quarters (which I’m totally fine with, because who collects change anymore,
anyway). Sometimes the connection is shoddy,
so it takes a few swipes before the card is recognized and authorized, but
still easier than carrying around a sack of silver. I loaded up five of the eight washers. One of the eight was out of order, so that
makes me a bigger asshole, but it was mid-morning on a Tuesday and I was pretty
sure most normal people were at work and not concerned about snagging a prime
spot for the spin cycle. I threw in a
few Tide pods, swiped my card a few dozen times, and heard the water begin to
fill each machine. My work here was
done.
***
At the same time my parents got me a credit card, they also
thought it wise to open checking and savings accounts for me, as well. I had just started my first job: a
barista. I came home each night with dry
milk crusted into my arm hairs and I reeked of 2-day-old mop water, but I was
making money. Money that needed to be
deposited somewhere to save me from cashing each check and blowing it “just
because.” Since I wasn’t quite 18 yet, I
was given a custodial account, which meant my parents would be there to monitor
every move and inspect each purchase, and also reap the benefits of having
accounts in good standing.
Up until recently, I had used the same custodial account I
originally opened. To write rent
checks. To pay the electric bill. To pay the water bill. To purchase all my school supplies. It didn’t really bother me that my parents
could see my purchases (all the adult stores along I-65 preferred cash, anyway). But now with a new job and a new life, I needed
to open my own account, and probably get my own credit card. I applied for the credit card first. I waited.
I seethed when I read the letter from PNC. Despite my sterling credit score of 778, I was
denied. All the credit I had established
and all my account activities over the past 6 years were pointless, because they
were reflected on my parents. I tore the
letter up and decided I would try Chase in a few weeks. I could survive for while without a credit
card, anyway, and why start racking up more debt right away?
***
I returned to the laundry room to switch my loads to the
dryers. The complex still seemed
abandoned as I scuttled across the parking lot again, wallet, keys and phone in
hand. I struggled moving all of our
sopping wet clothes to the dryers. Mainly because I had been skipping arm
day for the last 6 months (and leg day, and back day, and gym day altogether),
but also because whoever laid out this laundry room did not take into consideration
that stacking dryers on top of one another really puts hobbits like myself at a
blatant disadvantage. I tossed in some dryer sheets, shut all the doors,
and began swiping. Swipe swipe, swipe swipe. Swipeswipeswipe.
I knew these things were temperamental, but this was just obnoxious.
After the twelfth “DECLINED” message, I figured it had to do something with my
card—probably because the several $1.50 purchases in a row sent up a red
flag. I would just call PNC, get my account unfrozen, and I’d be good to
go. 12:33pm. I definitely still had time to shower and have these
dried before I had to leave at 1:45.
After waiting on hold for what seemed like an eternity, I
was connected with Cheryl, who sounded like she didn’t completely hate her job
and genuinely wanted to help me.
Name. Social security number. Birthday.
Address. Account PIN. Recent purchases. Blood type. Dental
records. Family medical history.
Finally.
“Um, Ms. Hines, it looks like your account has a hold on
it…”
“Yes, yes I know. Our laundry machines over in my apartment complex get crazy sometimes, and I’m doing a bunch of loads at the same time so I’m sure that caused some sort of…”
“Ms. Hines, were you in Oak Park, Michigan mid-January?”
“Um, no? I don’t—“
“Has anyone from PNC contacted you about this recently?”
“No…”
“Your account has been marked for suspicious activity. You did not make a $52.70 purchase at a 7/11 in Oak Park, Michigan, correct?”
“No, no, that wasn’t me. I was just calling to hopefully get the hold taken off my account so I could finish doing my laundry because I really have to be at work soon, and I have wet clothes just sitting in here.”
“Ms. Hines, I understand. Unfortunately, your account has been compromised and for your safety, we have to close your card and send you a new one.”
“Yes, yes I know. Our laundry machines over in my apartment complex get crazy sometimes, and I’m doing a bunch of loads at the same time so I’m sure that caused some sort of…”
“Ms. Hines, were you in Oak Park, Michigan mid-January?”
“Um, no? I don’t—“
“Has anyone from PNC contacted you about this recently?”
“No…”
“Your account has been marked for suspicious activity. You did not make a $52.70 purchase at a 7/11 in Oak Park, Michigan, correct?”
“No, no, that wasn’t me. I was just calling to hopefully get the hold taken off my account so I could finish doing my laundry because I really have to be at work soon, and I have wet clothes just sitting in here.”
“Ms. Hines, I understand. Unfortunately, your account has been compromised and for your safety, we have to close your card and send you a new one.”
My face got hot. I begged. Come on, Cheryl,
woman-to-woman, domestic goddess-to-domestic goddess. Just take the hold
off my account for like 3 minutes, and I promise I’ll tell you when I’m done
with the dryers and you can go ahead and shut ‘er down. I won’t tell
anyone. If PNC calls asking me questions, I don’t know nothin’, didn’t see
nothin’. My voice began to crack and I could feel the tears slowly creep
into the corner of my eyes, just waiting for the dam to break. Cheryl
apologized again, and repeated that Gold Star in Customer Service phrase, “I
really wish there were something I could do.”
I burst into guttural sobs, my mouth flapping like a baited
catfish’s—the ugly cry that is only reserved for karmic misfortunes and pet
funerals. I opened my wallet and looked at the empty slot where my credit
card used to be. “What if you have an emergency?” my mother’s voice rang
in my head. In desperation, I grabbed my HSA card—that’s linked to an
account, right?! As I swiped it, grasping for straws, the expiration date
glared at me. It was now 12:57 and my face was salty and sticky and I
still needed to dry these clothes and take a shower and I was stuck on the
phone with Cheryl who was trying to get information on where to send the new
card, pausing to let me weep after every answer I gave. I sunk into a
corner of the room and let out a visceral wail.
“Um, Ms. Hines, are you alright?”
“I just...ssft ssft sssft...I just have to get to work and…sssssft…I hate my job and it’s awful and I was just trying to do some laundry today…ssssssft ssft…everything is just going so wrong right now and my clothes are wet and now I don’t have a debit card…ssftssftsssssft...no, it’s not your fault Cheryl, I know, girl, I know.” And just then, a woman cheerily walked into the laundry room to see me puddled on the floor, regaling Cheryl with the events that led up to this quarter-life crisis like she was my high school guidance counselor. I scooped myself up and wiped my eyes, muttering some unbelievable explanation, “ugh, allergies.”
“I just...ssft ssft sssft...I just have to get to work and…sssssft…I hate my job and it’s awful and I was just trying to do some laundry today…ssssssft ssft…everything is just going so wrong right now and my clothes are wet and now I don’t have a debit card…ssftssftsssssft...no, it’s not your fault Cheryl, I know, girl, I know.” And just then, a woman cheerily walked into the laundry room to see me puddled on the floor, regaling Cheryl with the events that led up to this quarter-life crisis like she was my high school guidance counselor. I scooped myself up and wiped my eyes, muttering some unbelievable explanation, “ugh, allergies.”
Cheryl had gotten all the information she needed, and I
headed back to my apartment to get a few baskets so I could retrieve my wet
clothes and my dignity from the laundry room.
I called my boyfriend and cried. I
called my mom and cried. I sat in the
shower and cried like an angsty teenager in a John Cusack movie. And I decided that sometimes, trying to be an
adult is weird and complicated and sometimes you’ll crumble like a child who
just received news that Santa isn’t real and oh by the way, we’re not you’re
real parents because we kidnapped you at birth from a gas station in Hoboken.
Wet laundry and cancelled debit cards are trivial, at most, in that grand scheme that everyone always refers to. But subconsciously, it was more than that. I was trying to navigate this new life and prove that I could be a certifiable adult, and I was trying more than anything to convince myself of it. In truth, we all need that metaphorical breakdown in the communal laundry room to really move forward, right? That moment when we confront one of the greatest fears of most 20-somethings: trying to be kind of an adult, but not really.
Wet laundry and cancelled debit cards are trivial, at most, in that grand scheme that everyone always refers to. But subconsciously, it was more than that. I was trying to navigate this new life and prove that I could be a certifiable adult, and I was trying more than anything to convince myself of it. In truth, we all need that metaphorical breakdown in the communal laundry room to really move forward, right? That moment when we confront one of the greatest fears of most 20-somethings: trying to be kind of an adult, but not really.
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